Guy Doesnt Want to Talk to Me but Added Me Again on Snapchat
The one that got away may be the handsome face that currently sends you snaps behind the puppy dog filter.
Maybe this vague figure didn't "get away" in the traditional manner. They're theoretically still in your life, but in a delicate game of social media limbo.
Before reaching this point of no return, the natural progression of your conversations may have felt promising. A scandalous thought crossed your mind underneath the layer of bullshit texts you get in a day: "I think we… like… each other?" You guys were going places. Then, Generic Potential Suitor popped the question, where it all begins (and ends): "Do you have a Snapchat?"
Maybe I'm just an 80-year-old in a 22-year-old body (no, wait, I definitely am), but does that dreaded question ever come from a secure love interest and seem to put you one step back?
Once I'm "there" with the person, then this app is a great way to share something in passing when we're otherwise occupied, but that's not the implication you want to get from someone you barely know and would like to get to know better.
I'm usually a few conversations in with the person and just beginning to crawl out of the emotionally callous stage when they drop the question.
I'm curious, where does the person think a budding relationship can go from Snapchat, except down? Is it the 2016 version of the friend zone? The technological hook up? Do they need the children's picture book edition of a conversation?
If you don't care where the relationship goes, or if you have mastered the Snapchat medium and know how to handle this, then add them. If you're not sure what's going to happen, and don't want to get to know them through a series of rapidly vanishing photos, I suggest saying no.
Or, if you're wanting to be truthful and non-confrontational, say you have one but don't use it very much. Not using something "very much" is a totally relative term that can't be used against you later. Later, as in, maybe when you add them once you've established that you're both pretty great, and have a good laugh about this paranoia later.
In my not-scientifically-supported personal life trends, whenever I've divulged my username to someone in this situation and thought, "that's ridiculous if we won't text at least semi-regularly just because I added him on Snapchat," that is exactly what happens. Suddenly, I only hear from the person in 10 second pointless bits of their lives at a time.
As if things couldn't get more non-committal than today's existing dating practices through technology, Snapchat's chat feature will make you think again.
Social suicide is the notion of talking to someone across more mediums than one. So, a person will most likely default to reaching out in the most informal mode, because they don't want to appear anything but totally chill. Snapchat takes a sweeping win for informal communication.
Maybe that's harsh. You may get the occasional inappropriately poignant life event via Snapchat, which leaves you discussing the latest major life success or tragedy via the chat feature.
Few things in life have made me feel more ridiculous than discussing serious life events through Snapchat because neither of you want to switch over to a text message, or the fabled phone call. The day has come; we feel needy for starting a texting conversation.
Inevitably, there will be a lull in your Snapchatting ways, in which case, get ready for the thrill of them not viewing your snap story! The not-using-Snapchat-"very much" tables have turned. That window into your life was up for 24 hours, can we at least agree that it was ignored, and not pretend it was somehow missed over the course of a day?
If I added up the times I thought of someone I'm fond of, paired with a fleeting wish of, "I really wish they'd ask me for my Snapchat!" I would get a resounding zero.
If Snapchat becomes the new courting norm, or if it already is and I'm ultimately unaccepting, you still have the option to form a relationship your way, whatever that entails.
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Source: https://gainesvillescene.com/why-adding-someone-you-like-on-snapchat-is-the-kiss-of-death/
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